There are couples who start complaining about the marital boredom just after being a few years into marriage. But there are couples despite being married for several years who have sustained romance in their relationship.
How is this possible, why are such differences?
The answer lies in the second group of couples’ ability to stir up innovative ideas to spice up the otherwise bland lifestyle.
It is not possible to change your lifestyle outright to become the most romantic couple; you have your responsibilities, you have your babies to look after, you have to consider the household budget.
But even then, you can easily afford to just stop becoming mummy and daddy for one day and instead of enjoying a romantic date with each other to bring back the lost passion in your relationship.
Get a memorable day just for yourself by planning for a romantic evening.
While you become parents, you find little time to spend in each other’s company and that creates the distance. So this is the day when you should keep to each other.
Even if you do not have grannies living nearby in whose place you can pack off your kids for a night, you can start your romantic dating after the kids are off to bed and for this special occasion advance their bedtime a little.
Maybe you can allow them to play a little longer in the afternoon so that they get tired and sleep early. Another important thing is to plan ahead; if you have to buy something for this special evening or change some arrangements in-home, complete the tasks beforehand.
But keep everything simple so that you do not waste all your energy in preparation and when it comes to real enjoyment you become so tired that you cannot feel the romance of the moment.
Before starting on the actual play, promise to yourself that you will not put any pressure on each other by placing expectations and remain flexible to each other’s idea of improvisations.
Suppose if one of your kid needs some attention be prepared to take your turns to attend to them.
If you cannot move out from your home, no problem at all. You can make things turn out most romantic right at your home.
It may be the terrace, or it may be the backyard lawn. Even the living room may give you the perfect venue of a romantic evening by little additions or changing of things.
By putting out the light, burning a couple of aromatherapy candles, and setting a CD of light music on the player, placing a bunch of roses at one corner you can create the right ambiance to have the most romantic evening.
If you are having your evening party outdoor, hang a hammock, or spread a picnic mat and carry the foods in a straw basket for having perfect outdoor fun.
Music is the perfect mood-enhancer. Even if you are a pop freak, this time go for some classic romantic pieces from Beethoven. Set the music at a low volume so that you can hear each other’s voices without efforts. Treat yourself to some fine wine to keep with the ambiance.
Candle is another ingredient without which there can be no romance in the evening. The arrangement regarding candles must be done beforehand.
Buy long burning candles in different shapes and sizes, but stick to the white candles, as they are more powerful to add to the romantic ambiance of your room.
If you are burning scented candles, be sure to take those with a soothing aroma. If the scent is too high, it will distract your minds.
Prepare the dining area beforehand with napkins and plates pre set at the table. Bring out the chinawares that you keep aside only to be used at the parties. Use of special utensils or linens will help to add to the romantic impact of the evening.
Dinner should be simple and easy to prepare. The thing becomes even more romantic, if both of you help each other to prepare the foods in the kitchen.
Go for such simple things like salad, pasta, or bread rolls which can be made ahead and put inside the oven to keep them warm.
Be sure to switch off your mobile phones. This is the evening that you have chosen to spend in each others company and any distractions like a call from his boss or an inquiry from your customer can spoil the whole mood altogether.
Isn’t it a pretty simple way to impress your spouse? The evenings like this are like oxygen in the lives of the married couples.
Take once the labor of arranging for such a delightful evening and see how your spouse gets interested for another one in the recent future.
It is this enthusiasm for making things romantic with little efforts that make the relationship of the married couples so special.
